Did you ever want to do something fun or daring or unusual or forbidden but you stopped yourself because your all-too-serious and critical inner Voice told you couldn't or shouldn't do it? "Grow up! Act your age! Be realistic! Don't be crazy! Think about what could happen! " On and on it went, crushing your creative energy and making you wonder why you even got out out bed. You can stand up to your all-too-familiar inner bully. A little kindness works wonders.
The inner critic is part of the emergency system built into your brain to keep you from getting hurt. The problem is that it doesn't work unless the danger is physical and immediate, such as if you are being chased by a lion. In that case, you would want to put your thinking cap aside, send all of your energy to your legs- and run like crazy! But when the "enemy" is silent and invisible, when it comes from the past but shows up in the present, the Voice is not helpful. Still, it is trying to help. So the first thing to do is to say "thank you" to your mom or your teacher or your ex lover or whomever the Voice came from originally. The next thing to do is to be kind- to yourself. Recognize the fear of failure or of not being enough that is behind the critical voice. And choose the message that you want to hear instead. Tell yourself things like, "It's scary but you can do it. Your best is always good enough. Everyone feels afraid sometimes, but you are still ok. Go for it!"
At first, you may have to repeat the new message over and over in order to move tiny steps forward. But eventually you will love your critic into another inner realm. And you will be free to go where your heart is leading you. My inner critic told me that musical swings were only for kids. But look at me flying!