You been hearing and reading about them now for about a week. Articles, radio announcements, TV commericals, and perhaps your own mother or neighbor or spouse or friend are urging you to make and keep New Year resolutions, as though they are the key to health and happiness in 2016.
Lose weight, get into shape, eat better, play more, quit your job, work harder, be kinder, take a vacation, drink less, call your mother more often (guess who came up with that one)- you've heard them all- and perhaps tried them all.
Don't listen to them! Don't give into peer pressure! Social research indicates that most resolutions, no matter how sincerely or intended, don't last longer than a couple of months. And when the resolution fails, the critical monster in the recesses of the mind takes over and the resolution maker often feels like a failure. Not a good way to start the new year.
However, setting an intention is an entirely different mind creature. It is strong, focused, sincere, and action-oriented, just like the best resolution. However, it is also patient, open, forgiving, kind, and persistent. You cannot fail with an intention because it is a process that you fine tune until you achieve what you want instead of a quick-fix that you either do right or wrong.
Want to try an intention this year instead of a resolution? Ok. Sit yourself down (or if you cannot sit still, go for a quiet walk outside). Notice that you are ok right now, perhaps not perfect (no one is) but alive, breathing, and able to consider your intention. Appreciate that for a moment...
Next pretend you are a 10 year old with the wisdom to know what is best for you as an adult in all circumstances (really, 10 year olds know these things). The sky (or universe) is the limit of who you can be, where you can go, what you can do, and who you can attract into your life. Imagine how you feel as you start this best experience of the first day of your best life.
Where are you? What do you see around you? Who is with you? How do feel about eating, walking, running, playing, working, and loving in this most glorious of days? (Remember there are no limitations to your child-like mind). Let yourself daydream without worrying about how or when or if it will happen. Don't let you Serious Grown-up mind talk you out of your dream. Sit with it, walk with it, play with it. Write it down somewhere so you can admire it and review it now and then.
Then- let it go! Come back to your adult self in your adult day with your adult schedule. But know, because it is really true, that you have set in motion a process that cannot be stopped (unless you consciously change your intention to something new).
You cannot stop your progress toward the eventual creation (literally or figuratively) of that intention which you just imagined. Why? Because that is the way the mind works. The subconscious mind believes everything we tell it or show it- and the subsconscious mind rules our thinking! By relaxing, consciously thinking of what you desire, and allowing yourself to feel what it will be like to have what you want for at least 30 seconds, you have just pushed that intention into long-term memory and into the subconscious mind, where it has already started to move you toward your goal! This is science people! (If you don't believe me, check out www.greatergood.berkeley.edu for more scientific info.)
The full manifestation of what you want will happen at the best time in the best way for you. So, no worries. If you forget or slip up or really blow it on your path, just dust yourself off and continue on by taking a moment to remember, "Oh, my intention is still there. I know where I am going!"
Happy intention making! Let me know how your intention-making playtime goes. Many blessings...Beverly