We all tell ourselves stories to explain, justify, and cope with our life experiences. Some of those stories have happy endings. But many of them remain unsolved mysteries or tragic sagas without endings that haunt our dreams and keep us from moving forward. Srikumar Rao, a transformational coach, has come up with a way to re-write problem situations into new stories that open our hearts to healing and free our energy so we can move on, even in the midst of difficult circumstances.
I tried this process recently. I was feeling trapped by my daily schedule, never getting caught up and not having time to relax or enjoy activites that are important to me. I sat quietly with the problem, imagined as a story, and re-wrote my part. I instead of being the victim, I became the heroine who saves the day. Shortly after completing this practice, I realized that nothing bad would happen if I took a few minutes a day for something that has no purpose except to make me happy. Amazingly, when I started to act out my new story, I actually accomplished more of my to-do list, too!
Want to change your story? Sit down with a cup of coffee or a favorite treat, and start writing your new story:
1. Think of a problem situation that needs a better ending or a hero or a direction that feels a bit better. Imagine the details of this new story in which you are the hero. For example a story like, "I am anxious and weak" can become, "I am feeling more peaceful every day". Make it stronger by imagining how it would feel if if were true.
2.Each day, notice small things that support your new story and take a moment to appreciate them. For example, "Wow, taking a walk really calmed me down", "I love quiet time in the morning", or "My sister noticed my good mood today".
2. Support yourself instead of judging when you make a mistake or experience setbacks. Gently correct negative comments that pop into your mind. For example, "What is wrong with me?" can become, "I am doing my best and that is enough". If there are other people in your story, give them the benefit of the doubt, too.
3. Put your new story into action to get your energy going in a better direction. Doing even one small thing that makes you feel proud or happy will lead to more. Don't worry about the final destination, just enjoy the journey.Let the results show up on their own. For example, your first action could be saying something that needs to be said, starting a new habit, or stepping away instead of arguing.
4. Congratulate yourself for writing yourself a new part in your life story. Then take the next best action again. You get the idea...
Try this practice for one week and send me a comment to let me know what happens. Happy storytelling!